The frequency that hacks your biological age

Living in alignment is the best anti aging hack 

As a women's coach I get to see first hand and on a daily basis what ages a women the quickest and what softening into a women's true essence can do to her natural timeless beauty.

In my 49th earth year I am hearing the call to keep deepening into the feminine myself so that I can keep holding a super strong container for women to do the same 

In last blog I explored how self abandonment and comparison fatigue accelerate aging. Here are some more anti aging protocols that work better than anything cosmetic

Openness
An inability to look within correlates with reduced inflammation, better immune surveillance and faster cellular recovery after stress. In a world that encourages distraction and disconnection, if we can keep our heart accessible, cry when something moves us,  full body laugh, forgive, be moved by beauty, music, poetry or the pain of another we become spiritually magnetic which is  biologically rejuvenating.

Armor is aging. The armor keeps joy, connection and intimacy out, and when those are missing, the nervous system interprets life as a threat, not a home. So ask yourself...

Where have I hardened emotionally?
Where have I closed off?
And what might my body look and feel like if I let some of that go?

Curiosity
 In both the spiritual and neurological sense, curiosity is the hallmark of a flexible, open and adaptive mind, and when we talk about appearing younger, emotionally, energetically, even physically, curiosity plays a central role.

When we are curious, our brain releases dopamine, a neuromodulator that's not just about pleasure, but about motivation to seek. It's the chemical signature of the exploration mode in the brain. The prefrontal cortex, which governs executive function and decision making, becomes more active. The hippocampus, which encodes memory and learning, becomes more plastic, and norepinephrine, which sharpens focus and attention increases just enough to heighten awareness without tipping into stress.

In short, curiosity literally tunes our brain to be more youthful, more responsive, more resilient. The neurobiology of curiosity resembles that of a younger person, someone who's still discovering the world, rather than trying to defend what they already think they know.
 
People who cling to certainty tend to age faster, not just emotionally, but also physiologically. Why? Because rigid beliefs and closed loop thinking activate a chronic stress responses. When we're dogmatic, closed off or chronically trying to prove we're right, our sympathetic nervous system (the fight or flight system) tends to stay active. That leads to elevated cortisol levels, which in turn accelerate aging faster, telomere shortening - a direct correlate to ageing, higher inflammation and impaired immune response.

The body keeps score, and it ages accordingly. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It says, What if I don't know yet? What if I'm still becoming?  That question opens space in the nervous system, it reintroduces flexibility and down shifts the body from a defensive, closed state to an open, learning state.

People who live this way often smile more genuinely, express awe more freely and experience the world with a sense of wonder. These traits show up in micro expressions in the eyes, the face, the voice, and people perceive them as youthful, even if they can't explain why.

From a spiritual perspective, curiosity is humility in action. It's the lived belief that life is still unfolding, that every moment contains a potential revelation and that belief, whether you call it a mindset, a frequency or a nervous system, state, preserves youth better than any cosmetic intervention ever could.

More importantly, it allows the parasympathetic nervous system, our rest, repair and recovery system to come back online. In this state, our body starts to heal. Our face softens, our voice gets more melodic, our posture shifts. We don't just look younger, we feel lighter, and others perceive that as youth from a spiritual standpoint,

So if you want to stay young, not just in appearance, but in vitality and presence, trade some of your certainty for curiosity.


Forgiveness
Letting go of the past isn't about denial. It's about release. It's saying I no longer identify with what happened to me. I don't carry that weight anymore, and that act of release is one of the most anti aging, vitality generating things a person can do.
 
In studies on people who practice forgiveness, they have lower inflammatory markers, better immune response and even longer telomeres (those little caps on the ends of your DNA that correlate directly with lifespan). The past weighs heavily on the nervous system, and when we let go, when we truly stop carrying it, our brain chemistry, our heart rate variability, our immune system and our face all reflect it in a very real sense. Youth is lightness, not the absence of experience, but the absence of emotional baggage.

So if you want to look and feel younger, don't just buy creams or supplements. Ask yourself...

What am I still carrying?
What am I finally ready to put down?

The women I work with look younger than their age because they live with a sense of internal alignment. They may not always be able to articulate their life's purpose in a sentence, but their nervous system reflects that they're living in a way that feels right and that has profound implications, biologically, psychologically and spiritually.

These women have transcended the default mode network. When women are disconnected from purpose, this neural network tends to spin in negative, repetitive loops, self doubt, comparison, rumination. But when living in alignment, that same network quiets down, and what takes its place is something known as the task positive network, a system that supports goal, directed behavior, creative flow and present moment awareness.

These women are more engaged with life, more focused, more inspired, and that psychological state is mirrored in their physiology, better sleep quality, improved digestion, more stable hormones and reduced inflammation ; the  building blocks of youthful vitality.

When people are aligned with purpose, their body responds as if it's being nourished. The autonomic nervous system stabilises, heart Rate variability improves, which is one of the best predictors of stress resilience and long term health and the brain releases oxytocin, the social bonding neuropeptide that also promotes tissue healing, immune regulation and even smoother skin.

My students radiate energy, even when they're older. That glow isn't just charisma, it's coherence. It's the byproduct of internal systems firing in harmony. That's what alignment does. It synchronises us.

 Living in alignment doesn't mean we're never tired or that we love every second of what we do. It means that, on a deeper level, we know we're on the right track, moving towards something meaningful, even if it's evolving or unclear. This internal compass, the belief that our life matters, that we have a mission is protecting our biology. In one longitudinal study, individuals with a strong sense of purpose were found to have a reduced risk of Alzheimer's, lower rates of heart disease and longer life spans.

So if you've ever looked in the mirror and thought, I feel younger than I look, ask yourself this...
 Am I living in alignment?
Am I making choices big and small, that honour who I am and who I'm becoming?
 
Joy 
But what if one of the most overlooked yet powerful anti aging mechanisms is joy? Not just momentary pleasure or surface level happiness but authentic joy. The kind that bubbles up from inside, when you laugh freely, when you dance without self consciousness, when you're immersed in music, play, love or awe. That type of joy isn't just emotionally nourishing, it literally reshapes how our body functions, especially through the autonomic nervous system. 

The autonomic nervous system controls the automatic functions of the body, heart rate, breathing, digestion, immune response. It has two primary branches, the sympathetic, fight or flight and the parasympathetic, rest and repair. When we are chronically stressed or emotionally guarded, the sympathetic branch dominates which raises inflammation, tightens muscles, speeds up aging and lowers your body's capacity to heal. But joy, activates the parasympathetic system, especially the vagus nerve, which is a major player in calming your body, regulating your heart and promoting digestive health. When the vagus nerve is activated through laughter, music, breath or meaningful social connection, our heart rate variability increases, our stress hormones decrease, our immune system strengthens, quite literally we enter a healing state. 
 
On a neurological level, Joy stimulates the release of serotonin, dopamine and endorphins. These aren't just feel good chemicals. They enhance neuroplasticity, promote repair and slow down the aging process in the brain. Joy also reduces the activity of the default mode network that mind wandering, self critical part of the brain, and instead brings you into the present moment. Joy looks like, youth, presence, aliveness. Spiritually speaking, Joy is often described as a signal that we're in harmony with the moment. Not trying to escape or change anything, just in it fully. And that resonance between your inner world and outer experience sends a message to our entire system, we're safe, we can grow here. That message unlocks regeneration. So if you want to look younger, and more importantly, feel younger, start asking...

Where do I find real joy, and am I making time for it, or am I postponing it for some future I may never reach?

Joy isn't a luxury. It's a biological necessity and when we honour  it our nervous system, thanks us