Notes from the ashes

There is beauty in the burning. Some lives have to burn down to make space for person you were always meant to be

You know that feeling when the ground doesn’t just shift, but completely falls away from under you?

That's my year.

An avalanche of endings. The pillars of my life, the identity I had built—crumbled in what felt like a single, devastating season. Whilst standing in the silent rubble, I was given a brutal gift: the chance to meet myself, without any labels.

This, I’ve learned, is the essential, non-negotiable phase of the Phoenix process: the burning. The fire that consumes everything isn’t there to punish. It’s there to clear the ground. It burns away everything that no longer in alignment, so that only the raw, essential, unshakeable core  remains.

The Questions That Forged Me

This  initiation pushed me to ask the BIG questions:

* Who am I when no one needs me to be anything for them?
* What do I truly believe in, when I’m not echoing the beliefs of a partner or a group?
* What brings me joy, simple and pure, that belongs entirely to me?

These weren’t easy questions. Answering them meant grieving, raging, and sitting in the deep discomfort of not knowing. It meant re-parenting the parts of me that felt abandoned and terrified.

I began to realise that the relationships and communities I lost were removed to make space for a life—and a Self—that is more authentic, more resilient, and more truly mine

Rising, Not Just Recovering

I am not the same person I was a year ago. That person needed those external structures to feel solid. The person I am becoming is finding her solidity from within.

This is the Phoenix rise. It’s about integrating the wisdom of the fire and becoming something new.

It’s the discovery of a creativity you didn’t know you had.
It’s the slow, steady hum of a joy that doesn’t depend on anyone else.
It’s the fierce, protective love you learn to have for your own fragile, powerful heart.

**An Invitation to Your Own Rebirth**

This journey through the ashes is what inspired me to create something for  fellow phoenix, those with a  profound thirst for depth and authentic connection—with themselves and with life itself.

I am thrilled to introduce the course I am currently birthing:

Rebirth Your True Essence

Launching 2026 - The Year of Rebirth

This isn't a course about quick fixes. It's a guided, deeply supportive container for those who are ready to consciously navigate their own phoenix process - the heroine journey.  It’s for those who know, in their bones, that a profound transformation is calling them, and who don't want to walk that path alone.

We will explore how to:
* Honour the endings without being defined by them.
* Sit in the sacred void and listen for the whisper of your true self.
* Build a new life from the inside out, rooted in your authentic essence.

My story isn’t over. It’s just beginning on new, unsteady but sacred ground. If you are in the fire, or sitting in the ashes, please know this:

You are not being punished. You are being prepared.

The world needs the person you will become on the other side of this.

If you feel the call to begin this work, to be ready for 2026, reply to this email with Rebirth  to be the first to receive details and early registration opportunities.

Perhaps the idea of a full rebirth feels like too much right now. The phoenix's fire is powerful, but what if your soul is simply asking for a quieter conversation?

What does it sound like when your own essence whispers to you?

If you feel a gentle nudge—a curiosity about who you might be beneath the roles, a longing for a kinder relationship with yourself—then I created something for you.

This is for the woman who knows a deeper connection is possible, but wants to explore it with compassion, not force.

I am reopening the doors to my foundational course: Embrace Your True Essence.

Recommencing January 2025

Think of this not as a rebirth, but as a homecoming.

This is where we trade the pressure to transform for the practice of listening. It’s a guided space to:

Quiet the external noise and finally hear the wisdom of your own intuition.
Turn inward with curiosity instead of criticism, learning the unique language of your heart and body.
Cultivate a gentle, authentic intimacy with the person you are today, without any agenda to change her whilst feeling into the future that's waiting. 
This is the beautiful, necessary first step. It’s about tending the soil long before the seed is planted.

If the idea of a softer, more profound friendship with yourself calls to you, reply to this email with Embrace to be the first to receive all the details for the January intake or click below

This isn't about rising from the ashes. It's about discovering the sacred ground you're already standing on.


P.S. What one small thing can you do today to honour the person you are becoming, even in the midst of the fire? Maybe it’s lighting a candle, writing one honest sentence in a journal, or simply standing still and breathing. That small act is a revolutionary step toward your rise.